• Marlena Davis

Fix Your Mindset

You have a dream, an idea, or you're just wanting to change your life and work for yourself. You consult with your friend Google and start researching all things about small business. You start printing and saving a ton of information to use as reference. You print, print, print...save, save, save. Your flash drive is working over-time. As you review the ton of info that you've printed and saved you begin to feel overwhelmed, tired, and confused. You feel like you're missing something, but you don't know what it is. You ask other small business owners questions thinking they will help you figure it all out. But they're evasive with their answers, or they won't answer you at all because they think you're trying to be the competition. You're just frustrated because you can't get the help that you need and all you're trying to do is start a business off on the right foot. Now you just want to scream because all you want to know is "WHERE DO I START???"

Well, here's the answer: The first thing that one should do when starting a business is by FIXING YOUR MINDSET. I know that it probably sounds weird to hear that knowing exactly who you are is the starting point for starting a business, so let me explain. When I started my first business all I had was passion and an idea. Once I figured out how easy it was to create an LLC in my state (Missouri) I jumped in with both feet thinking that I had what it takes to be an entrepreneur. I was too grown lol. And I was so wrong. I was NOT prepared, mentally, for entrepreneurship. I was wishy-washy. Decision making was so hard. I quickly became overwhelmed and exhausted. I developed insomnia. And I became prey for con artists who knew that I was eager and weak-minded. They knew that I lacked good judgment regarding business, and they took complete advantage of it. Being weak-minded...naïve and green...led to my sister and I being conned out of everything. I felt like my life was over and I wasn't even 25 years old yet.

I was devastated for having screwed up, and I lived in a state of depression and humiliation for a long time. I was angry that none of the people and organizations that I'd worked with regarding entrepreneurship ever prepared me for the dog-eat-dog world of business. Growing up your parents and teachers often prepare you for the next stage of your life. But now I was on my own and I wasn't prepared. In my 20's I had no idea who I was as a person. Society told me who I was. I lived my life based on what I believed was expected of me. I had a constant need for approval. I was afraid of what people thought and said about me. I wanted people to like me. And as a result, we were eaten alive.

Had I been the person that I am now back then, I guarantee you that what happened to my sister and I would have never occurred. Today, I know exactly who I am and what I want. My moral base, my foundation, is solid. I cannot be moved nor shaken. I am who I am. I have a kind heart and I love myself. Others may not like me, and I don't have to care.

Once I got myself together after being taken for a ride, I was determined not to allow my bad experiences steal my dream of being a successful entrepreneur. I came to terms with what happened and held myself accountable. I will not repeat those same mistakes again. I'm older, stronger, and wiser now. I'm not saying that I cannot be scammed again. There are some sophisticated scammers out there these days, so anything is possible. But I am saying that it won't be easy to do. I have no problem walking away from the table when something doesn't feel right or holding folks accountable if they try me. If someone owes me money, I'm coming to get it. If someone runs a game on me, I'll have them prosecuted. PERIOD.

I've been silent about my experiences and the lessons that I've learned about business over the years. But times are changing, and more people than ever are wanting to become entrepreneurs. They want their freedom from corporate chains and toxic workplaces. People are waking up and that makes me SO happy. I hear the call of others who are in the same position that I was once in... lost, confused, frustrated, and ripe for preying con artists. So, I'm answering the call. I am here for it! LET'S GET IT!!!

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